I can’t stop thinking about getting a new tattoo, but I have no idea what it would be. Maybe just some flowers? Just for the fun of it. Fun is underrated, guys.
Reading List, 17 Reasons Why edition.
September has been beautiful and warm, and I feel fine. I miss East London like a lost limb but soon, soon.
"Part of me is feeling extremely old now, and part of me is feeling extremely young. Because I look at these pictures and realize I worried about things that I shouldn’t have been worrying about. Like the fact that I had little marionette lines around my mouth when I was 29, and I was complaining about them. I wouldn’t go out to the beach without a sarong from my neck to my ankles. Now I see a picture of myself from that era in a bikini and I’m like, ‘You looked great.’” Stevie Nicks <3
"I could taste that it didn’t need me. I needed it. I didn’t need it. I wanted it.“ I don’t really care about wine, but I care about Laura Jane Faulds’ wine blog.
Study finds “magical contagion”. Dude! [University of Chicago, via @dailydoseofjess]
Sarah Beller’s Tinder fantasies. [The Hairpin]
"There’s something satisfying about nixing words that render your private life public.” Nona Willis Aronowitz in NY Magazine on alternatives to “husband”.
The Central Sadness [Meghan Daum, The New Yorker]
"For so long I’ve tied the way I look, or rather the standard of personal presentation that I hold myself to, to how I feel. […] But losing every primpable part of me has left me adrift." Vanessa Pelz-Sharpe on losing her hair to cancer.
Love this piece by Helen Lewis in The Guardian on how we talk about female sexuality in public, and how it’s shouldn’t be just about “protect[ing] us from ourselves, and from the dangerous vaginas we were carrying around like unexploded bombs”. When what it’s really about is “desire and gossip and freedom and your head exploding and adventures and waking up feeling like the rest of your life has just started”.Self-portraits by Stevie Nicks [AnOther Magazine]
I wrote about my favourite coffee houses in Trondheim, Norway, for Suitcase Magazine. The beans are good up there, and there’s not a jam jar in sight.
Enjoyed this piece on kids running their own businesses and how to go about it, for children’s magazine Aquila.
I interviewed Mike Tobin, now ex-Telecity, for Megabuyte. He’s not like the other CEOs. Sample quote: “So after the shark diving, every time you go into a situation where you’re afraid, you can remember how you felt when you came out of it!” Words to live by.
I’ve done a few writing shifts for VisualDNA lately, which I’ve enjoyed even though it meant going in to a *gasp* office! Not to mention the Shoreditch 2014 experience. I mean, it was up and coming for so long, but now, it’s … it’s come up! Oh it’s out there.
A London Thing: Art summer.
Of course, London is the real art. But the city is full of amazing galleries and excellent museums, reminding us all the time that ours is a city of the world. These are some favourites from the summer.
I’ve been wanting to write about this for a while and I may still do it, but this … this was pretty incredible. It’s just Marina and her people, as we’re willing to do anything for the chance to breathe the same air as her, or at least that’s how it starts. I went with Karima and it turned into a moving meditation, as we let ourselves go and had what can only be described as “an experience”. It’s the sort of thing that makes you feel like amazing things are possible.
Radical Geometry / Royal Academy of Arts, until 28/9
So many of the things I love are in this show on geometric art. I wrote about it for Apollo Magazine.
Francesca Woodman: Zigzag / Victoria Miro, until 4/10
Is it possible to look at Francesca Woodman’s art without thinking about her dark end? I went to see this small photography exhibition with Zakia, and neither of us could decide. Woodman is so dreamy, so determined, so young. The photographs are tiny, just the beginning of Woodman’s idea of a flowing zigzag, a challenging geometric shape, which should have been so much bigger.
Aldwych: The Secret Station / London Transport Museum
I’ve been wanting to visit a London Underground ghost station since forever! Well, since that time in 2008 when I had the plague and read everything about ghost stations and phantom lines while I was unable to speak, let alone move, for a full week. In any case, the Aldwych tour, which I went on with Simon, is a piece of Tube history - just the sort of geekery I like. And it makes you think how much of a maze and puzzle the Underground really is. It’s the London wallpaper, the scene of every feeling every Londoner has ever had.
Digital Revolution / The Barbican
I’m still not sure I really liked this one all that much, but that was because I was expecting an art show and not a museum show. As the latter I think it is probably pretty great. Digital images and designs were utilitarian at first, but they are becoming their own thing as the digital becomes a part of culture. For an exploration of this that’s more an art show though, the Hayward Gallery has an exhibition coming up: Mirrorcity looks at “the effect the digital revolution has had on our experiences”. Now there’s a big picture.
“The life ; you know now will soon seem a bauble ;–full of visions & unimaginable colorings, all a-swirl & small enough to hold in yr hand. & yr new life will feel hot & ravenous as the live mouth of a beast, & real. & then that too will be a bauble, & you will admire it. :& everything will be small & far away, & all the sadnesses, too, small & almost darling. So when you are in the mouth of the beast, let yrself be eaten, let the beast eat all of you & gnash yr bones.”
Reading List, Twist edition.
“Everything is nothing, with a twist.” Kurt Vonnegut
“Feelings are the only facts.” Kanye West
"Stop trying to make sense of things. You can’t think your way through this.“ Polly Forever [Heather Havrilesky, NY Magazine]
"I don’t know, I just know that I stood there for a long time , uncomfortably shifting in my too-tight running leggings, drinking recycled London water from a goddamn champagne glass, watching him tip the contents of the wheelbarrow into the bin, jewels and all.” Gardening in London when you’re lonely [Maeve Higgins, Medium]
Signs without signification [Jeff Brouws]
“This is the art of being a woman and remembering the feelings of a girl.” Molly Lambert in Grantland, on what the real Britney Spears may look like.
Meaghan O’Connell’s birth story is one of the most brilliant things I’ve ever read.
“If there is an exception he’s it“ - What Sarah Nicole Prickett wore to fall in love. [From Women in Clothes via Adult Magazine … My writer crush on SNP is way out of control.]
“Blood Hounds" This is gross and I love it. [Maureen O’Connor, NY Magazine]
“Trend piece” [Rosemary Counter, the New Yorker]
Sarah Wilson on the most rebellious kind of alone time.
The case for dying at 75. [Ezekiel Emanuel, The Atlantic]
Life in minimalism. [Leah Finnegan, Domesticity, via @annfriedman] Oh these kinds of stories make me hot. Also, in the comments: “Leah, what I like about you is your utter ruthlessness in all areas of life.”
"The mourning for what could have been is countered by an appreciation for what is - a woman’s life, allowed to proceed as she wants it to.” My year as an abortion doula [Alex Ronan, NY Magazine]
“Like my body was the only thing keeping me together. I only wanted to do things with my body. I wanted to take long walks and eat big meals and kiss.” September. [Kara VanderBijl]
1. Any book, web site or television show that gets you thinking you’d be a lot happier if you could just have ____________;
2. Any food or drink that makes you feel sick after you consume it;
3. Any way of thinking that promotes you to favor ideas over people;
4. Any belief that causes you to see yourself as fundamentally worse or fundamentally better than anyone else.
Water, sunlight and patience.
“The intentional routine has always belonged to a single life. When I am single, I wake up on my own exactly at the time that I need to, and then I get coffee and read on the couch and get ready for work. […] My routines were very calculated and aspirational. But as soon as you’re in a couple, all that’s gone. At first your life together looks erratic. There’s the abandonment of routine. But routine is sort of what happens when you’re not paying attention.” Dayna Tortorici.
Francesca Woodman knew some things about shapes, “a sophisticated understanding of form”. The dreamiest geometry.
Reading List, Soho Edition.
“All I ever really want to know is how other people are making it through life. Where do they put their body, hour by hour, and how do they cope inside of it.” Miranda July.
The best time I (maybe) got rabies. Lola Pellegrino, The Hairpin
Mary HK Choi bought a very expensive coat. [NY Magazine]
"I had a strong sense of destiny in my youth. I don’t know what my parents thought of me moving to London when I was 22. I never thought about it and I didn’t go home to Akron, Ohio, for 35 Christmases.” [Chrissie Hynde in The Guardian]
"Is San Francisco Pacific Time? San Francisco is a good time. “ Molly Sanchez at The Bold Italic answers Google autofill questions about the City.
A song of spice and fire. Jazmine Hughes at The Hairpin marks the start of Pumpkin Spice Latte season.
"Why don’t you try being a dick and striking out on your own and making a fucking mess for a change?” Ask Polly is at NY Magazine now, still killing it.
Obituaries for the pre-dead. [Margalit Fox, The New York Times]
How to write a novel. [Emma Stroud, Rookie]
Sadie Stein’s cookbook addiction [The Paris Review]